OMFG! I just read all 25 pages of this string and I have come to one inexorable conclusion; there is a chasm in the perceptions of what is and what isn't appropriate conduct in the scenario painted by GBG a few weeks back.
For the record, I'm 48. I'm sure most of you weren't even a glint in your father's eye when I had my first legal drink (1981, for the math challenged among you). I've seen much and lived much more.
By way of background, I grew up in a small town in southwestern PA and my folks ran a small convenience store (which was conveniently located next door to our home). The store closed at 10 AM. On summer nights at 10:01 the front of the store became a gathering place for our friends. From the age of 12 through our college years, we'd sit around and shoot the breeze. We'd talk about girls, school, sports, life.
On occasion our discussions became loud and animated because of arguments or disagreements. I can only recall a handful of times in those 10 plus years that my father would come out of the house and have us settle down or ask everyone to break it up and head home for the night. Was there ever any illegal activity going on? There may have been alcohol and smoking on occasion, but never pot. Most of us survived in tact and went on to become semi-useful members of society.
FF to the posts at the top of this thread. Being the father of 2 children (and trying at the same time to be protective of them on one hand and giving them just enough rope/responsibility so that they can begin to learn about life and what is in store), I can completely relate to what GBG experienced.
Having loud neighbors (kids) outside your window when trying to get some sleep or settle down for the evening can be unnerving.
Everyone has to remember, it's not what you say, but how you say it.
Perhaps in retrospect it would have been a more appropriate for GBG's husband to head outside and (a) approach the neighbor and politely ask the parent to speak with his/her child and their friends and ask for them to keep it down; or (b) take that approach directly with the kids. Personally I prefer (a) over (b).
As for juicy's responses, I think they were over the top, but in the end, I'd like to think he objects more to the message of delivery as opposed to the message itself.
Now as for that missing garbage can. . . . . play neighbor and go knock on her door and speak with her. If you still have the receipt for the purchase, take it with you to show that you purchased 2 identical cans, and now only one is at home and one identical can is sitting in her garage. If she refuses to return it, or lies about how she obtained it, then you know all you need to know about the character and veracity of your neighbor.
Remember, it's only a trash can. Don't get all bent out of shape over it. Replace it and paint them both up so there is never a future incident like the one you experienced.
I'm all done for now. Go about your business.

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